Last year was a big year of growth for me, I think because everything got so crazy in the world around us that I had to come back to the center, the core of what’s important in life, or else go crazy trying to make sense of it.
Here are some things I stopped doing in 2021:
1. I OFFICIALLY STOPPED HOLDING ONTO PHYSICAL THINGS (GIFTS, HAND-ME-DOWNS, ETC) JUST BECAUSE THEY BELONGED TO A FAMILY MEMBER OR THEY WERE GIVEN TO ME BY SOMEONE SPECIAL.
In the beginning of 2021, we lost a very special person in our circle who passed away unexpectedly. It was a shock, and I found myself wondering & thinking about an item he had given me more than a decade before that I had been carrying guilt about.
I felt I wasn’t “using it enough,” he’d want me to use it more, etc. But after he passed away, my focus shifted. Suddenly the item didn’t matter – this special person mattered.
I realized, through my grief, that the more important thing would have been to spend more time with him over the last decade instead of stressing out about this gift he’d given me when I was in high school.
This realization caused me to question what else in my life I was holding onto because I felt guilty? What other items in my life had become such a distraction that they took my focus off the most important people, plans, & goals in my life?
2. I STOPPED ALLOWING WHAT OTHERS MIGHT THINK OF ME TO HOLD ME BACK FROM BEING WHO GOD HAS CALLED ME TO BE.
It can be tempting, especially in this world of social media, to “edit” ourselves down into a version that will be accepted by others.
There are a number of ways we do that, and I started to notice when God pointed out to me the way I had been doing that – and I stopped. It’s a continual process, though – to stay authentic and real. God is still pointing out those things to me now.
3. I STOPPED JUDGING OTHER PEOPLE, SITUATIONS, AND EVEN MYSELF AS RIGHT/WRONG, GOOD/BAD.
I started to recognize that I’m not the one who is responsible for judging things; rather, God is.
And honestly, it takes the pressure off because if it’s not my responsibility to judge, then I am free to focus on nurturing my kids & husband and taking care of our home, rather than getting wound up trying to “fix” things outside my sphere.
This realization is probably what enabled me to start a blog and be active on social media, sharing about homesteading and our life! I realized I don’t need to fix anything outside my sphere, which gave me a new passion for simply sharing and encouraging.
Because that’s what we need in the world right now — more sharing and encouragement. Not more opinions.
What did you let go of in 2021? What do you want to let go of in 2022?