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If You’re Struggling in Motherhood, Read This

by Bay Sandoval
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When I first became a mom, I was shocked at how hard it was. Six years later, it’s still harder than I expect sometimes, especially since we have three kids. But one thing that has made it a bit easier is that I have adjusted my expectations.

I no longer expect to look like I did when I was 18. Nor do I expect to be able to go anywhere I want at any time. It’s come to my attention that I get depressed when my expectations are unrealistic, so it’s imperative that I keep those expectations in check.

Sure, my goal is to keep the house clean, but if it doesn’t happen, I know it’s not because I’m a failure or that I’m lazy. I’m doing a lot right now, caring for three littles. And so are you.

Stop Believing The Lies

In early motherhood, I was allowing the enemy’s lies to shape the way I thought, instead of basking in the blessing of God that motherhood is.

I’m not sure if I had postpartum depression or not, but those were dark days. They were very difficult.

If you’re struggling with PPD, please know that my heart mourns with you. I want to speak hope into your life! And if you love Jesus, you know that this life isn’t lasting and your purpose is higher than all those lies are trying to make it out to be.

The lies told me I wasn’t pretty anymore, that I was wasting my education since I was staying home with my kids. The lies even exulted education and careers in my mind over nurturing my kids and making our home.

Trying to do it all and be it all

It was suffocating. I wanted to do it all and be it all. But I now realize that “doing it all” is not sustainable or realistic. So I made my choice to nurture these kids full-time. And I am so thankful to say, six years later, that even though it’s a sacrifice, it doesn’t feel like a waste of my life.

Yes, it’s difficult — I’m run-down. I’m dealing with overloaded senses. But I also get to witness something amazing: the shaping of my kids’ hearts, souls, and personalities. It’s a miraculous thing to see.

mother with baby in homestead kitchen and baby is being lifted up and smiling

Quick Sidenote:

I’ll answer one question for you because I’ve been getting this question a lot on Instagram! Where did I get my dress? I bought it on Amazon along with another red one because I wanted something flowy and huge for the remainder of my pregnancy! Okay, now let’s move on to the topic at hand…

Keep Your Head Up, Mama

If you can have a hobby or side business that keeps you excited about life on the harder days, that will really get you through. Trust me.
-Bay

So keep your head up, mama. Do what you have to do to stay in this marathon. For me, it’s working on the house and making it beautiful, podcasting, and showing others how to thrift shop for their homes and their wardrobes.

If you can have a hobby or side business that keeps you excited about life on the harder days, that will really get you through. Trust me.

You are so important to your kids. They thrive because of you! So take good care of yourself — body, mind, and spirit.

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